ok so ive found mutliple tutorials that say to get the com.apple.mobilemail.plist and ive done that wen i go to edit it there is no option that says fetch time... its almost like its missing completley.. any ideas?

settings, fetch new data,
Your choices are 15 minutes, 30 minutes, hourly.
click on advanced to make sure your mail account is set to fetch

Thanks i new that but i mean interms of edditing it from 15min to like 1 min or 5 min

wouldnt that drain your battery like... pretty fast????

probablly but its no different then push if u receive lots of mail

You need to change the key PCDefaultPollInterval in the file /var/mobile/Library/Preferences/com.apple.persistentconnection.plist to the number of seconds between mail checks.