i have a 1.1.2 unlocked (upgraded from 1.0.2 to 1.1.1. to 1.1.2 w/ anysim 1.2.1u ) I was wondering id there a way to erase or delet all the added programs i added to the phone so i can start off fresh with a blank slate to reinstall just the new programs i want?? it seems that after i upgraded I had to reinstall all the programs and well now my phone is very slow and freezes all the time!! i was hoping to delet all the old stuff and wipe it clean and start over !? Is there any way to do this please help!!!!

No need to do that, just use the BossTool. It will solve your problem.
Search for Boss tool im kinda lazy today to search it for you :p

how will this remove all the apps ? whaqt about the symbolic link . will this wipe my apps completely ? i wanna start fresh?!! should i just do a restore ? wilol this re lock a un activate my phone???

doing a restore will whipe your phone clean and deactivate it... (not relock)

youd have to downgrade to 1.1.1 so you can run OktoPrep then Update to 1.1.2 if you wanted to jailbreak tho